BECOME THE MAN YOU ALWAYS NEEDED.

TOM PALMER

MEN’S MENTOR & LIFE COACH

“It's hard to find words that do justice to the profound impact working with Tom has had on my life.”

Are you a perfectionist?

Are you a people-pleaser?

do you hide from conflict?

Do you hide parts of yourself?

Is your whole life a performance?

Do you seek approval from others?

Do you feel like you’re never enough?

Do you search for your worth in others?

These types of behaviours don’t just spring up for no reason.
There’s a story behind your circumstances that is waiting to be told.
There was a time in your life when these behaviours made perfect sense.

Maybe it wasn’t safe to make mistakes.

Maybe it was better not to have needs.

Maybe you never felt like a priority.

And as a result, you began to feel that who you were wasn’t good enough. You felt like a burden and that your needs didn’t matter. And that sense of deep shame found its home inside of you, following you around like a shadow.

You felt you had to perform to get the love you needed and that there was no other way of feeling a sense of belonging. And this taught you that you wouldn’t be accepted for who you truly were which meant having to become someone else to be loveable.

Maybe you were abandoned.

Maybe you were neglected.

Maybe you were abused.

Whatever your upbringing and life experience, the protection mechanisms that you had to put in place to keep you safe and secure back then are the exact reasons that you are feeling stuck and frustrated with your life now.

The very same behaviours that got you the love and attention you had every right to as a boy are the behaviours that are keeping you trapped in cycles of pleasing, resentment, hopelessness and anger as a man.

And until you can find a way to accept yourself, to respect yourself and to love yourself, just as you are, you will continue to seek your worth on the faces of others and through your seemingly selfless good deeds.

You will continue to manipulate people, to tell subtle lies and to deceive others to get your needs met without ever owning what you truly want.

You will continue to look for the love and attention you craved as a boy in the people who come into your life as a man.

You will burden your relationships and friendships with the responsibility of filling the voids in you that still hurt today.

You will hide your real self, imperfections and all, from those you love most and for this reason you will never feel the intimacy that you so deeply desire.

It’s time to stop living in this way.

It’s time to stop people-pleasing.

It’s time to stop being perfect.

It’s time to stop performing.

It’s time to stop all of it.

Because there’s another way of living your life.

There’s another way of meeting your needs.

There’s a pathway that leads to freedom.

AND THAT’S WHAT I’M HERE TO HELP YOU FIND.

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ABOUT YOU

You’ve felt the pull from deep within you to step onto a different path. You know that where you’re headed is not going to offer you the depth that you desire. You’re ready to switch gears and embody the man your life deserves.

You’re successful, driven and you get results. But you’ve neglected the one person that needs you most. You’re ready to go deep into self-mastery and to become a powerful, driven leader: the kind of man you can be proud of.

You’re eager to explore the programming that you have picked up from your life so far (parents, society, culture, relationships) and to reshape the blueprint that runs your subconscious mind and drives your results.

You serve your tribe well but your boundaries are weak or non-existent. You know that to thrive and live powerfully, you must design your interactions with the world more consciously. You’re ready to make this a reality.

You’ve got everything you need to make the next move, but something is holding you back. You’re stuck in old habits and patterns. It’s time to transcend this old structure and embody the version of you that brings the fire.

You know what’s possible when you commit yourself to the task but procrastination and a lack of direction is keeping you paralysed. You’re ready to swap complexity and confusion for focus and clarity.

ABOUT ME

**I’M TOM PALMER.**

I am a man, a father, a husband, a friend and a men’s life coach.
I am also a musician, a lover of nature, an explorer of spirituality and natural healing and a physical fitness and nutrition enthusiast.
Following a breakdown in my early thirties that facilitated a monumental change in my own life, from burnt-out, weak and lost, to purposeful, strong and confident, I awakened to my mission in this life:
TO TRANSFORM NICE GUYS INTO
STRONG, CONFIDENT MEN.

**MY INSPIRATION.**

As well as supporting men to know themselves deeply and to create lives of fulfilment, integrity and freedom, this work also reaches into the lives of the women and children that are connected to them.
This is is a huge driving force behind what I do and why I do it.
Strong, present and loving men create stable, powerful and peaceful families and this is what the world needs more of.
I am inspired by my two sons every single day to become the best man I can be so I can give him to the world.

I PARTNER WITH COMMITTED MEN TO:

UNDERSTAND WHY THEY PEOPLE-PLEASE AND SEEK APPROVAL FROM OTHERS
LEARN FROM THEIR PAST EXPERIENCES AND REFRAME THEIR LIFE STORY
RELEASE THE WEIGHT OF THEIR CHILDHOOD AND FEEL FREE AGAIN
WORK THROUGH TRAUMA, ABUSE AND ADDICTIONS EFFECTIVELY
CREATE AN INSPIRING VISION AND PLAN FOR THEIR LIFE
DROP BAD HABITS AND DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOURS
TAKE RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY IN ALL THEY DO
HELP THEM TO MEET THEIR OWN NEEDS
OVERCOME ANXIETY & DEPRESSION
EMBRACE THEIR MASCULINITY
BUILD EMOTIONAL FITNESS
FEEL MORE CONFIDENT
LIVE A FULL LIFE

KIND WORDS

“I honestly don’t know where I’d be right now if it wasn’t for taking that leap of faith with Tom.

Tom shared with me the recording of our first call together six months ago and watching it, I was embarrassed with who I was looking at. I couldn’t believe that was me. I was in a deep depression, I was a people-pleaser, and I was an anxiously attached little boy. I couldn’t believe how defeated I looked.

Through the course of our time together, Tom challenged me. He poked holes in my thoughts and words. He didn’t just validate my stories to make me happy. He didn’t do the work for me. He made me do it myself. He made me strive to be better.

In short, he wasn’t what I wanted. He was what I needed.

I wouldn’t trade the last six months for anything.

My confidence is at a point I’ve never felt before, and I thank Tom from the bottom of my heart for giving me the tools and guidance to get myself to a spot where I’m not afraid to take on any challenge life throws at me.”

“It's hard to find words that do justice to the profound impact working with Tom has had on my life.

My thought processes towards myself, my career and my success are now in an entirely different place.

My relationships are stronger. I feel mentally and emotionally refreshed and I would genuinely go so far as to say it's been life changing for me, and therefore also of great benefit to those around me.

Tom is a Master at what he does and I will remain forever grateful.”

“Working with Tom has been the best thing I have ever done.

It’s been unbelievably rewarding, it’s opened new doors, it’s turned what were previously dreams into a reality and, most importantly, I feel as though I’ve remembered who I am.

Each time I came away from a conversation with Tom I felt a huge sense of pride in myself, as though I was finally free to walk around with my head held high.

During our time together I have overcome long-standing family challenges, I’ve improved the relationship I have with my partner and I have even managed to start the transition from a job I wasn’t enjoying to making my new business a full-time role.

And all of this has resulted in myself and everyone around me being happier.

I can’t recommend Tom enough.

I hope you recognise the deep impact you have made in my life, for which I will be forever grateful.”

“Tom thank you for the last three months.

To say you have given me the kick up the ass I needed to kick-start my life again is an understatement.

I am more confident and disciplined and although some hard decisions were made in my personal life, I can now look forward to finally being the man I always wanted to be.

You have been a breath of fresh air and you are a master at what you do.

I would 100% recommend this for anybody that like me was successful but living on auto pilot and not content with things in my life.

It’s the best money I’ve ever spent and looking back on how it has help me grow and make decisions that I was afraid to make I would pay double what you charged.”

“I have never met anyone who is as grounded and present as a coach.

Tom has an incredible talent to be able to cut through the bullshit and get straight to the heart of the matter.

He holds a space for you to expand into, to be your best, to fulfil your purpose and learn about yourself in a way that helps you move forward rapidly and easily.

He has a gift to help you awaken your best self and walk beside you whilst you transform into it fully and completely.

I love Tom. I love his coaching. I love his style. If you are lucky enough to get the chance to work with this man, your future self will be eternally grateful.”

“Working with Tom has had a profound impact on my life.

He is incredibly eloquent, wise and insightful, and he handled some of our more emotional sessions with such empathy and care.

I gleaned so many tips and techniques from him about nutrition, sleep, exercise and relaxation that have made me feel so much calmer and more grounded during moments of overwhelm.

I have also formed a much deeper relationship with nature since working with Tom.

Above all, I am so grateful to him for helping me find peace with feelings of loss and abandonment I experienced as a child. He is the only professional I have worked with who has been able to help me release those feelings and it's something I'll never forget.”

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I’ve partnered with military men, artists, lawyers, architects, celebrities, personal trainers, engineers, CEO’s, mortgage advisors and many others who were looking for targeted support to become the man they knew they could be.

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